Real Talk Im Breaking Up With My Boyfriend But We Live Together

Real Talk Im Breaking Up With My Boyfriend But We Live Together Moving in with a mann an ihrer seite is one of the most exciting times of a relationship. But realizing things wont work out can be rough. Thats why one FGBer sought erleichterung from the FGB Community regarding her breakup.Have you ever had to break up with a live-in partner? she recently wrote to the Community.My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost three years, but I have decided Im done with the relationship. While I know Ill be able to do it, I could really use some success stories to help my major anxiety about this Thankfully only he is on the lease, and we lived pretty far below our means, so I am pretty free to go. I will definitely ask him about how he wants to work out the finances, though, she continued.Several FGBers wrote to offer similar stories, as well as advice on how to handle this particular type of breakup.Ive done this more than once. Its never pleasant, one FGBer wrote. But the amount of time youll spend in that unpleasantness is far less than the amount of time youd spend unhappy if you stayed in a relationship that wasnt working for you.Im in a somewhat similar situation, another FGBer wrote. After living together for more than 10 years, and now with two preschool boys to consider, I realized that this is not a man with whom I want to spend the rest of my life with. Im working on breaking the codependency. Its hard. I have been working on improving my finances, and I went back to school. I know that support is key. A therapist, a coach, a family member or trusted friend is great to have in your corner during times such as these.So sorry to hear, but thats exciting that soon youll be off to a new adventure thatll hopefully make you much happier, a third wrote. Before you rip the bandaid, figure out living ideas so youll have them ready. Will you move out, or do you have someone to stay with? Should he move out? Should neither of you move there? Going in with a p roposed outcome might soften the blow.It is important to be prepared for all outcomes and reactions.As the above FGBer mentioned, prepare your plan for the post-breakup finding a new place to live, when you will move, how you will do so, when you will need to be out by, etc. Also, it is important to prepare for all ways in which your partner might react to this news. Breakups are hard, and you can never predict how difficult it may be for the other person. Prepare for every possible reaction, from the best to the worst case scenarios.Im sorry to hear of your situation. This doesnt mean that the relationship is over, but that this form of the relationship is over. You are both moving from dependency on your partnership to independence and autonomy. One suggestion is to honor any commitments you made, such as financial until something new is worked out, one FGBer wrote. If youre both paying rent and utilities, then continue until youve both moved out (unless hes staying and doesnt nee d your contribution). When it comes to separating your items, try to be fair, even if youre feeling less than objective youll probably feel better a few months down the road. You might consider not only who bought an item, but who uses it more and whether keeping it will bring you happiness or sorrow.If you have your own question, reach out to the Community to receive advice from other FGBers.